My Husband Won’t See The Doctor! What Can I do?
My mother and I have probably had this conversations dozens of times…. “I am so frustrated Heather, I just got a phone call that your father missed his doctors appointment… again!” My response being “I understand your frustration mom, Donald (my husband) just called me 15 minutes before his appointment to ask if I could cancel because he has a meeting!”UGHHH! I feel like if I don’t make a big deal about going to the doctors, my husband would never find the time to go. Cancer has hit my family pretty hard over the years, I even lost a good friend to Ovarian cancer when we were in our early 20’s… so I don’t mess around when it comes to my family’s health. But unfortunately for myself and many other women out there… sometimes men need a kick in the pants! Whether it be lack of time, waiting until they are sick before seeing a doctor, or simply not liking the experience, statistics show that men seek out care less than women do. So as a concerned wife trying to get your husband to the doctors… here are some ways to get him there!
Discuss Why He Doesn’t Want To Go
For years I just assumed husband didn’t go because he was too busy and just didn’t make it a priority to find time to go to the doctors. I was nagging him one day to make an appointment and we actually discussed that there were other reasons behind him not going. Turns out he was worried about what his doctors was going to say about his health. “Well Heather, I already know they’re going to tell me to eat healthier” and so on. Ensuring him that his doctor isn’t there to judge him, but to educate him on making healthier choices was a great way to ease his fears about that.
Find A Specific Reason For Him To Go
Discussing with your husband his health concerns is always a good way to get the discussion started. This is a great opportunity to bring up visiting a doctor to go over his concerns with him. Talk to your husband about what types of questions he would ask the doctor and any concerns he has about his health. This is also an important time to discuss family health history and making sure those topics are addressed at the doctors.
Schedule The Appointment For Him
If there is anything I have learned about my husband over the past 13 years, it’s that he absolutely will not schedule himself a doctors appointment. I can nag him til his ears hurt, yet he will still procrastinate and put it off until we both forget about it. I have found that making the appointment for him and sending him emails and text messages several days leading up to the appointment is a fool proof way to get him to the appointment!
Educate Him On Major Health Concerns Among Men
Did you know that testicular cancer is the most common cancer in males between the ages of 15-34? The best hope for early detection of testicular cancer is a simple three-minute self-examination once a month. It is also crucial that your husband make that yearly exam a priority so a doctor can confirm that there are no signs of testicular cancer. Even when testicular cancer is detected early, 99% of those diagnosed will survive! That is why it so so important to make sure your man is visiting his doctor every single year.
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We hope this article was helpful to you and it has given you some tips about encouraging the man in your life to get to the doctors!
Oh no, I’m worried too, he must do that. He’s in danger and cancer is a dangerous illness!