Helpful Tools for New Mothers
Nothing prepares you for motherhood completely. The joy of bringing a child into the world is a unique and rewarding experience for the most part, but there are of course days and times when you are up to your eyes in screaming babies and soiled diapers.
There is perhaps a temptation at times to pour yourself a large glass of wine and let your hair down when things get a bit too much.
Adjusting to life with a newborn is a challenge for sure, but one thing that you don’t want to add to your list of challenges is a drink driving ban, so it makes sense to find some healthier and less troublesome ways to unwind from a crazy day with the kids.
Motherhood can be stressful
There is nothing like the birth of a child to fill you with joy and optimism for the life journey ahead that you are busy planning, but there almost inevitably going to be times when that optimism and excitement are replaced with some stressful moments.
Babies don’t come with an instruction manual and mothering them is something that you learn on the job rather than beforehand.
This means that parenting can sometimes be stressful. You would be hard-pressed to meet another parent who hasn’t at some point, been stressed out by some aspect of the task, from behavioral and sleep issues through to illness, there are simply many things that you have to worry about on a daily basis.
The reason many mothers become stressed is that they want to do everything right for their children and feelings of stress are a perfectly understandable and physiological reaction to your concerns.
Feed your confidence
A lack of confidence can soon lead to feeling stressed. If you have a system or a plan or are comfortable that what you are doing is the right approach, this can help to feed your confidence.
A bit of knowledge, followed by action, tends to breed confidence within you. Once you learn how to cope with a certain scenario or issue, based on past experience, this will often allow you to reduce your stress levels, as you know where you are headed in tackling a certain problem.
New mothers who are tasked with looking after their own child for the first time, are almost inevitably going to be stressed at certain times, as they are encountering new demands on their time and skills that they have not experienced before. Try to gain some inner-confidence by treating each difficult situation with a plan of action and network with other mothers, so that you are confidently feeding your confidence levels and reducing your stress levels in equal measure.
Adjusting to your new life
Becoming a mother is a major landmark in your life and represents a new way of life, which you need to find a way of adjusting to.
A good way of keeping stress levels to a minimum is to try and create a flexible routine for yourself. Giving some structure to your day definitely helps so set some achievable daily goals, and if it all goes wrong because the baby is not playing ball with your plans, just accept that is what can happen and start again with your plans tomorrow.
Madeleine Walters is a stay at home Mom, raising her 2 young daughters. She enjoys writing articles of an evening once the kids are in bed and she has some down-time.