Your parents have given you a lot over the years, right? The person you have become is thanks to them. Did they sacrifice their needs to ensure yours were met? Chances are, they did. That’s why you owe it to them to repay the favor. As they get older, they’re going to need you more. The transition from caregiver to needing care can be a hard one. That’s why you need to be sensitive with the amount of care you offer. How do you strike a balance? Here are a few tips about how you can best care for your elderly parents.
This may seem simple, but life often stops us from visiting our parents as often as we should. As your parent’s age, and are less able to get around, they’re going to depend on your visits more. If you visited once a week before, incorporate another visit into your schedule. Don’t make a big thing of this. Just ‘drop in’ on them. The visit will soon become a part of the routine. Seeing your face and having a little company is all they need.
TAKE AN INTEREST IN THEIR FINANCES
Talking of sensitive subjects; there may come a time when you have to take an interest in your parent’s finances. Again, broach the subject in a subtle way. The time may come when you need to take responsibility for those finances. It’s important you know what your parent’s wishes are. Ask casual, non-intrusive questions, about their savings and plans. It’s also important you protect your elderly parents from being scammed. The internet may be a discovery for them, and they stand at risk of falling prey to scams. If they mention something that sounds suspicious, don’t be afraid to find out more.
LOOK AFTER THEIR HEALTH
Your parents are going to encounter health problems as they age. It’s important you keep an eye on these issues. For various reasons, they may not be willing to admit when things get bad. They may not want to burden you. Or, they might be in denial about what’s happening. If a problem such as dementia strikes, they may not even be aware there’s anything wrong. It’s your job to notice problems. Keep an eye out for signs things aren’t right. It’s also important you know how to act if you do spot something. Will you take them in, or would it be better to get professional care? If you think the time for in house care is coming soon, try and have the conversation with them. Knowing what’s happening with their finances will help you with options.
KEEP THEIR NEEDS IN MIND
It’s not always easy to decide what’s best for someone else. When making hard decisions, keep your parent’s needs and wishes in mind. If they’re no longer able to make decisions, take time to consider what they would have wanted. It’s tough, but hard decisions will be easier to make if you know it’s what they would want.